Providing Social Stimulation

During the early stages of the disease my mother enjoyed word and picture games, Bingo and simple gross motor activities at the residence. She loved when I took her out to the movies, a bagel and lox lunch or simply sat in the park. We even made brownies together!

I had to accept that mom was losing the ability to have a conversation. However, she still appreciated music, smelling the flowers and as shown in the photo above flirting! As my mom lost cognitive and motor skills, I simplified activities to be easier and meaningful. One of mom's favorite activities was reading or hearing me read her special book.
Sarah's Special Book

This consisted of a binder filled with pages that included
- The story of where Sarah grew up in Chicago, her family, moving to New York, meeting her husband and raising 2 daughters. The pages were filled with familiar family photos and simple sentences.
- Photos of famous people such as Abraham Lincoln with an identifying caption.
- Large print, bold song lyrics for us to sing together, she could sing alone and over time I could sing to my mom.
- Adages and familiar slogans or jingles
- Cultural words such as Yiddish.
- Simple poetry or stories, rhyming was good!
- Pictures of holiday or religious symbols
Of course, you should individualize the book for your loved one to provide the topics they enjoy most!
Providing Sensory Stimulation
As the disease progressed and mom lost the ability to speak- she continued to love hearing me read her book and sing her songs. Sadly, she only got to enjoy fresh air when I took her outside. 
Fresh air was one of mom's favorite sensory experiences as I pointed out birds and squirrels and we chatted with other families under patio umbrellas.
The following photos show some of the sensory items that mom liked to hold:
- furry bags and other textured items
- a vibrating cushion and toothbrush
- a baby's toy water bag (nice deep pressure sensory stimulation) that felt good to wiggle on her lap.

Mom loved music so I set her up with a small CD player attached to her hat and headphones.
A Tip for Caregivers!
I noticed that few residents had visitors. It was comforting to become friendly with a few of the other adult children and sometimes we sang songs together and I played piano.
I don't play piano well but I sure had an appreciative audience (not the nurses). I also entertained myself by drawing pictures of mom.

Although its difficult to visit someone in a nursing home who is challenging to engage, I believe that my mom knew there was a visitor- someone who loved her. The title of my book Still Giving Kisses reflects how even after my mom needed to be fed and became incontinent she puckered her lips for a kiss when she heard my voice. Anybody can enjoy music, lotion, massage and sitting outside. My book is packed with strategies to help you engage with a loved one. You will look back years later, as I do now and feel proud that you did the best you could!

Still Giving Kisses: A Guide to Helping and Enjoying the Alzheimer's Victim You Love